Comment i met my wife on EHarmony (Score 2) 630
Comparing dozens and sometimes hundreds of possible dates may encourage a "shopping" mentality in which people become judgmental and picky, focusing exclusively on a narrow set of criteria like attractiveness or interests.
I always thought that's what dating was, shopping for your soul mate. The article continues to say that communicating over the internet creates unreal expectations. Well... yeah. I've talked to girls on the phone and gotten completely unrealistic expectations too. I'm not sure that's an effect of online dating or just not meeting face to face yet. You can't even expect this on the first date! Nobody reveals all their faults on the first date (Hell, I would never have had a date if I did!). Online dating sites are a good modern day tool, and the online equivalent of going to a singles bar, and if you've gone to a singles bar and actually gotten a date, you know it's trial and error.
You just gotta use your tools right! If you expect a computer to find your soulmate for you, then your expectation are definitely unrealistic.
It does happen though. I didn't expect it.