"So, if there was not Steve Jobs, do you really think we had now affordable music for download?"
Yes it was heading that way for a long time. As it got easier to post and share media (even as Apple fought against it with DRM and the locking of itunes accounts to a few computers) the media producers needed to respond. Banning technology simply doesn't work in the long run. Hence they basically had to lower the effort hurdles to buying music legally. Given they already were in nearly all high streets and were advertising intensively on TV really on-line with a simple interface was the only way. I doubt this could have went down any other way.
"Multi touch gestures?"
No clearly no one would ever have thought of that it's a world changing thought. Not the natural human manipulation style at all and definitely something that should have been granted a sweeping patent stopping others implementing this quite easily achieved feature.
"Nearly everything he did (or bought and used, like the gUI, mouse etc.) in principle could have been done by anyone. But he did it, the others did not.
Unix on the Desktop ... where is it?"
He also did the Apple Lisa, Apple TV, the touchWheel-less iPod Shuffle, Final Cut Pro X, Ping, Pippin, iPod Photo etc
O and "anyone" is only anyone with the vast resources of Apple not least of which is their incredibly aggressive legal team. So no individual or even small company can compete in the same arena as Apple as their fans often religiously only buy Apple, no matter the costs or quality. Plus Apple's legal team can will tie the smaller company up in pointless legal cases until they run out of money.
"Do you really think Android would exist if there was no iOS?"
Yes as phone technology improved it was inevitable that OSes would start to appear to allow more integrated control of the hardware. Everyone knew that long before the iPhone, look at the 2003 interview in BusinessWeek with Android's Rubin.
"Apple always in one sense was conservative, not going to the limit some developers envisioned, but also always pushed standards and limits. E.g. the "retina display", firewire, removing the floppy etc. etc.
Every singel thing Steve Jobs "introduced" for it self is not much. But the combination off all them together is."
They certainly are conservative. That's because they generally implement what is basically available elsewhere and then polish the UI up. Look at your own example of "Unix on the Desktop". Admittedly that in itself is actually a very good thing but when they sell and promote it as if it's something they alone invented last Wednesday that's pretty nasty. It is also annoying to people that have been using similar products for months/years, its spectacularly annoying if the Apple announcement gets greeted by a bunch of people bowing in reference and chanting about their genius they are so much inventive than anyone else.
Jobs was a very good CEO, end of line.