Are you 12?!

I believe you have my stapler.

While I agree with most of what you say, I have to say that there are many cases of addiction (substance or behaviour) recovery where the addicted person gets the initial help through outside pressure and ultimatums and somewhere in the process begins the process of recovery for themselves and not others. The key is support from friends and family, and for those people to not back down. Sometimes it's hard to be the bad guy, sometimes you lose friends, but if this guy gets a grip, it will be worthwhile for everyone.