The problem I see with your "weak women" argument is that you seem to suggest that all of the harassment women in STEM fields is trivial and if that drives you from the field, you are weak. I am a female and have worked in IT my whole life, from my very first support job answering phones at a local ISP, to software development, to my current role in engineering management. I am not the kind of woman who gets offended at pictures of scantily clad playboy models. I have, over the course of my 20+ years in this field: 1) Had a customer refuse to speak to me because I was female (he stated this explicitly); when I refused to get him another tech but told him I'd be happy to troubleshoot the problem, he said "how about I troubleshoot on your ass, and you swallow?" My director later said I should have found a male tech for him to work with. 2) Had someone offer to help me get a job at their company if I slept with them 3) Had my boss at the time IM me from his office to tell me he was jerking off and thinking of me 5) Had very many socially awkward co-workers ask me out in a variety of inappropriate ways - leaving notes on my car, persistent e-mails after an explicit no, and one guy who said he felt like I was laughing at him when I declinded his advances. 6) Watched ideas I've pitched be ignored until they were repeated ad nauseam by a male co-worker 7) Heard managers say they won't promote women because they just get pregnant and leave 8) Heard co-workers say they will quit if one of the females are promoted to be their team lead because they won't work for a woman The point is, I've managed to thrive in this field despite these things but at times it has been extremely difficult. Women are not asking for things to be easy, but they are asking for an equal chance.

I am a girl, who was gotten into gaming by a former boyfriend. Boyfriend is long gone but I still game. First, start with games that have a very compelling plot. I highly recommend Silent Hill 2, which is still one of my favorite games of all time. It's like a romance novel with monsters. Also as others suggested, The Sims. Being able to create little story lines is very appealing for female gamers. Next, get her into a game that has a lot of character creation involved. The one game that really sucked me in was Diablo 2, and in that version there weren't even a lot of female characters. When she does finally play with you, make sure you adjust your skill level to hers - it's tempting for the more experienced player to just do everything because it's faster, but that will turn her off quickly.