Comment Re:As expected (Score 1) 222
That's definitely the case with things like dinner etiquette. Nobody REALLY cares about which spoon is which.
But politeness, being kind in your interactions, thanking people, etc., that's all there to help interactions with people that aren't your friends or family. I say please and thank-you to the folks at the farmer's market. I don't know them well enough to do anything else. There's a little bit of social lubricant there that gives me a framework of how to act with someone that's mostly a stranger.
I get that sometimes the niceties are annoying—don't ask me how I'm doing if you don't actually care; I'll TELL you and then what are you going to do?—but lots of them are just a way to make life a little easier.