No need to ask. I know that she, like 99.9% of all women would gladly put some limits on how she expresses herself if that meant reducing the vitriol and hate she gets on a frequent basis.
You are obviously a guy. Guys do not understand how women look at personal safety. A woman's personal safety is something she is aware of ALL the time. I call this a woman's safety tape. Sometimes it is in the distant background like when she is at home protected by locked doors. But during the day when she is out in public she is probably continuously evaluating her personal safety. Most of the time it is to say she "I am safe at this moment". But she probably regularly goes on high alert aware of her surroundings, who she is talking to, checking her actions and words, Keeping an escape plan in the back of her mind.
In general men have no concept of a woman's sense of personal safety. I only actively think about my personal safety when I go into a "bad" area, a dark alley, or am being actively confronted. I generally do not think about walking down the street or being in a public place. When a man gets a death threat or a rape threat, he can laugh it off because because he is a man. It is probably not a real threat. For a woman on the other hand it all threats are serious and real threats. Women get killed, raped, hurt every day. Just look at the news.
If you doubt me, ask your women friends, your sisters, your wife/girlfriend, your mother. Does she think about her safety: At a bar or public event? Waiting in line? Waiting for a bus or train? Walking down the street? Shopping? At work with the guy(s) that harass her?
So to answer your question: My daughter would gladly trade some limits on how she can express herself if it limits the rape threats, death threats, hateful comments she receives.
Women: comments please?
RLH
