If your not totally opposed to some pain and things that are permanent (pretty permanent anyway), then get a tattoo. Put it right out there on your arm or something...of course consider the material, you'll have to live with it and consider who it may attract as an admirer. Express yourself in this way, and you'll find that you have at least one thing in common with future admirers...plus that tattooed geek thing throws em off a little. At any rate, talk to all the women (I assume) that you notice, you narrow the odds a bit, might even make some new friends who will lead to more friends who might lead to what your seeking.