This.

Exactly what I was going to say. My fiancee is terrible at dexterous video games, but loves point and clicks.
Granted, she grew up playing them, so she's got a little more interest than your wife might.

But this way you have two options:
A.) You can now play your video games, guilt free, right next to her while she plays hers.
B.) If she's stuck or if you like point and clicks as well or for whatever reason you can sit there with her and play it together by figuring out the puzzles, talk about where to go next, etc.
Games we've done like this are the Nancy Drew games and Monkey Island games.

Also, Sims works and she even got into KotOR, since movement isn't imperative and you can pause combat as much as you'd like. It helps that she's already a big RPer and SW nerd though, so a lot of it will just depend on your wife's interests.

Another alternative, which I'm sure people have mentioned are some Kinect or Wii games, like Wii Sports, Mario Cart, etc.

I know that when it comes down to the wire, experience will win over school credentials 95% of the time, but the fact is that a lot of companies do want, if not *require* an undergraduate degree. I'm in a similar boat right now, in that I'm working full-time, and trying to teach myself programming on the side. While I can do it, the structure of having classes helps me quite significantly, and I'm likely to learn more and faster in school than on my own. (And slightly off topic, if anyone has any suggestions for online CS or similar degrees, I'd really love to hear about them. I'm tempted by Full Sail's mobile development degree, but the reviews I've seen lately aren't that promising.) So like people have said, a local public community college/university might be your best bet. Also an option, assuming you're young and semi-mobile is internships and the like. ArenaNet is offering an internship right now that pays about as much as my full time job. Or just get a low, grunt position at a company you can see yourself working at long-term, and tell and show them that you're dedicated and want to move up.

I think the "Kanye West Party" might be more accurate in this case.

The business I'm at is an NPO movie review business. We have a website that I don't have much to do with, and an already running and functioning filemaker server, neither of which I have anything to do with, except for using them just like any other employee. I came here a few months ago and all the tools that I described were new within a few months and unimplemented entirely. I have no IT experience, and was hired part time to do whatever everybody else doesn't have time to and to take care of local, in office computers. So all I've got going for me personally is that I'm the most computer savvy person in the office (pretty computer savvy--extremely savvy compared to the rest of the office--but hardly a professional) and actually care enough to find solutions to things. Like I said, the reason I'm asking is because I already had those tools laying there, an want to find out the best way to make the most use of what I've got. Preferably simple, yet productive/ease of use type things. eg. a single, shared Address Book so that every single person in the office doesn't have a different one with no way to know whose is most up to date.