Comment It *isn't* responsible parenting (Score 0) 840
'Surely trying to ensure that your children have the best, or a good enough, opportunity for a great life is responsible parenting?' Yeah, certainly - wouldn't we all be happier if we'd always behaved exactly the way our parents thought we should?
It seems to me that most of the people I know who are really happy with their lives went through a very dark period at some point - in many cases, that dark period helped them learn how to make friends with their demons and become stronger and more whole individuals as a result. They didn't get there by surgically removing the parts of themselves they didn't like.
This isn't about the child's happiness - it's about the parents'. It's about saving parents who have never dealt with their own issues from having to face those same issues in their children ("gee, Doc, I don't know how our child has so many alcoholic/violent/psychopathic genes in there, but we for damned sure didn't have anything to do with it"). Responsible parenting, indeed.