I think there's a difference between Apple "users" and Apple "fanbois". I'm one of the former, but not one of the latter.
I dislike intensely what Apple has become as a company. I don't use most of their software empire, have the stupid cloud blocked (because they're Internet amateurs), hate the dumb "we changed your file because you opened it" model they try to use to replace "Save As", can't stand the fake "green" orientation (please tell me how green it is to CNC mill a computer case out of aluminum vs. stamping it or injection molding it...), hate that they want to control passkeys for me, plenty more than this.
I don't look down on people who make different choices in hardware or software. I use a Mac 'cuz it's a really nice machine (and yeah, it's expensive, but I use the crap out of it all the time).
The current one is the best of many satisfactory Mac purchases. But I hate the stupid iPhone because of the dumb way the OS works, and the control Apple foists on the user. I use an Android (which, of course has its own set of problems, but is a better fit for me). I've got a number of Linux machines - servers, Raspberry Pis and a Desktop machine, and because you sometimes _have_ to, I have a Windows VM. Easy enough to get around on all of 'em.
Simply owning an Apple product is no better reason to throw shade than skin color, gender, or "he's such a geek".
Drinking the Apple Kool-Aid is a completely different matter. I've known a couple of those guys...