I had a very similar situation in the mid-west and I totally agree with you IF you brought your own spouse. (that you still like) The 2 places in the mid-west where I lived it was IMPOSSIBLE to find a decent woman over the age of 16 that didn't have kids yet. Once I moved to Florida, it's perfectly common to find a college-educated woman that actually planned their life a little bit. I find people on the coast much more classy and interesting.