I love how the majority of people keyed in on the "preferably including some of the opposite gender", and skipped over the main point of "a social life". Two key requirements from this post: A. A social life. B. Possibly finding a date(s). To get to point B, your best bet it to go from Point A, then to Point B. You will greatly increase your chance of finding someone, and probably finding someone more compatible with you. Join groups, clubs, bands, gangs, orgies, and mobs that fit what you feel are good fits for you, don't worry at this point about finding dates, concentrate on the social life, meeting people with similar interests. This will get you out more, this will introduce you to more people, people I might add that might be good matches for you, but may not join the kinds of groups you would join. The more people you meet the more options you will have. You will likely find your "soul mate" through someone else, and if that someone else is someone who you share interests with, well that means she can put up with your weird shit, and you probably will end up happy. Moral of the story, the more people you know, the more places you go, the more chances you will have at finding someone. You already date yourself, probably every night in front of your computer with a bottle of lotion and a box of kleenex, so find someone who isn't exactly like you. Having some similar interests will get things going, but the differences are what will keep things going.