Comment sub-geekdoms. (Score 1) 766
More advice from older geeks to the younger on getting girls... Rob mostly focuses here on what to look for in women, and what not to look for. (Admittedly there is a small portion on being nice, and not trying to be something you are not...)
But perhaps a more appropriate article would be not what to look for in women (or men), but how to act. My broad generalization of the day is that Most geeks lack social skills.
For years, I literally hated people in general. Most were too dumb to understand me, and no one bothered to care. (This was partially teen agnst as well..) So I went through life having no friends, aside from the other few geeks who ate their lunch in the computer lab everyday. Eventually I discovered BBS's... (I will not rant on how great they were), but I slowly began learning how to talk to people, and at the BBS'er gatherings (socials), I actually had the chance to meet other local geeks in person. And there were female bbsers! My god (what god?) the world had changed... A group of social misfits that couldnt deal with the rest of the world, but were willing to put up with each other. I discovered the variety of geeks.... The standard dorkish type of course, but also the homeless couch surfing punk geeks, and the artists, and the goths....
So, woah.. im going off on a tangent. My point is, that I learned how to interact with people. I developed social skills, and realized that I didn't in fact hate everyone, I just didn't know how to deal with them.. basic things such as chit-chat, and asking questions to start conversations were just part of it.
Anyhow... so where/how to learn decent social skills? I'd tell you BBS's, but they're mostly gone.. (if you get nostalgic, look below and I'll give you the number of my old favorite, yeah its still around.) So as far as the lesson goes in this area.... I can't help to much.
So now assume that you've gained some social skills.. and you're a geek that can actually talk to people. (hehe.. big jump) Anyway.. so what can you do? You can start talking to girls or boys that you like, and continue with your life... but thats been discussed to death already... what I'd really like to talk about is the effects of being a geek of a different sub-faction... (now I really am going to go off on a tangent)
So now that I've had my time playing with social skills, I've gained a group of techie friends who're also artists, rivetheads and goths... (yeah i'm one of em). So now I have a chance to look at geeks from the outside. Occasionally I'll meet some nerdish looking geek and get to talking about some computer related material... It usually takes a bit of convincing on my part to make the other party realize that I know what I'm talking about. My appearance tends to set me apart from what might classify as a stereotypical geek... and I can see how geeks treat non-geeks for those few moments... Its a big awkward situation, even chatting...
So in effect, my social skills caused my interests to expand, caused me to ditch my blue jeans and sneakers for combat boots and a bull-ring in my nose.. but I'm still a geek! r0r.. So geeks should at least try to pick up enough social skills to be more able to locate others in their locale... and yeah.. as a side affect, you'll probably end up with a girlfriend, or boyfriend... maybe even both.
-harm
oh yeah... and I said I'd give the number for that bbs I used to live on.....
Henry's Hallucination
925-825-5864
925-827-5958
925-691-1486
But perhaps a more appropriate article would be not what to look for in women (or men), but how to act. My broad generalization of the day is that Most geeks lack social skills.
For years, I literally hated people in general. Most were too dumb to understand me, and no one bothered to care. (This was partially teen agnst as well..) So I went through life having no friends, aside from the other few geeks who ate their lunch in the computer lab everyday. Eventually I discovered BBS's... (I will not rant on how great they were), but I slowly began learning how to talk to people, and at the BBS'er gatherings (socials), I actually had the chance to meet other local geeks in person. And there were female bbsers! My god (what god?) the world had changed... A group of social misfits that couldnt deal with the rest of the world, but were willing to put up with each other. I discovered the variety of geeks.... The standard dorkish type of course, but also the homeless couch surfing punk geeks, and the artists, and the goths....
So, woah.. im going off on a tangent. My point is, that I learned how to interact with people. I developed social skills, and realized that I didn't in fact hate everyone, I just didn't know how to deal with them.. basic things such as chit-chat, and asking questions to start conversations were just part of it.
Anyhow... so where/how to learn decent social skills? I'd tell you BBS's, but they're mostly gone.. (if you get nostalgic, look below and I'll give you the number of my old favorite, yeah its still around.) So as far as the lesson goes in this area.... I can't help to much.
So now assume that you've gained some social skills.. and you're a geek that can actually talk to people. (hehe.. big jump) Anyway.. so what can you do? You can start talking to girls or boys that you like, and continue with your life... but thats been discussed to death already... what I'd really like to talk about is the effects of being a geek of a different sub-faction... (now I really am going to go off on a tangent)
So now that I've had my time playing with social skills, I've gained a group of techie friends who're also artists, rivetheads and goths... (yeah i'm one of em). So now I have a chance to look at geeks from the outside. Occasionally I'll meet some nerdish looking geek and get to talking about some computer related material... It usually takes a bit of convincing on my part to make the other party realize that I know what I'm talking about. My appearance tends to set me apart from what might classify as a stereotypical geek... and I can see how geeks treat non-geeks for those few moments... Its a big awkward situation, even chatting...
So in effect, my social skills caused my interests to expand, caused me to ditch my blue jeans and sneakers for combat boots and a bull-ring in my nose.. but I'm still a geek! r0r.. So geeks should at least try to pick up enough social skills to be more able to locate others in their locale... and yeah.. as a side affect, you'll probably end up with a girlfriend, or boyfriend... maybe even both.
-harm
oh yeah... and I said I'd give the number for that bbs I used to live on.....
Henry's Hallucination
925-825-5864
925-827-5958
925-691-1486
