the Chinese see that as attempts from western colonizers to control, and humiliate China... Again, they don't realize we've moved on from colonization, and we're happy to be partners with them
And how do you know if that (to control or colonize) is not true? Do you work for the CIA?
Look around the world, the only real competitor to the US (and its puppet Western allies) is China. Just think about that if one day Chinese Yuan succeeds becoming a real competitor to the USD and that most other countries are willing to trade everything include petroleum in RMB and accumulate RMBs as reserved, we would be much more like Greece. And all our allies would become theirs.
That's why we care about their political suppression so much. If China is irrelevant, we would care them as much as we care about Zimbabwe. If we truly want them to be our partner, we would care as much as we care about those same issues in Saudi Arabia or now Vietnam. (We did, back in 1970s, but not now. See below.)
it's foolish for China to try to force Taiwan to join them (the Taiwanese don't trust China
Yeah, Taiwan should forget that we betrayed them back in the 1970s when we made China, along with Afgan and bin Laden, allies to fight the Soviets, and start trusting us again, so they can be our puppet too.