I probably not a "real man" because I don't just want to have sex with random women, I want a relationship and for the most part don't want sex outside a relationship unless they magically invented holodecks so there was zero risk of catching something and zero risk of hurting feelings.
I find it hard to find a woman that I share interests with. I know lots of people don't care about that but plenty of relationship advice will tell you you'd better have something more than just physical attraction if you want it to last. I'm not looking for a clone, I'm just looking for someone on the same side of the spectrum. Like many geeks I like computers, tech, science, gaming. Of course I like dining and travel and movies and other stuff. That's not enough IMO. I'm not saying I need a women who is into any of those things, rather I need a women who is compatible with those things and can respect them. A women that thinks games are a waste of time would ultimately think I'm a waste of time... And I don't even game that much. Less than a 2 hours a week except maybe 4 weeks a year.
Maybe this can be easily described as a women who enjoys using a computer because of all the things it enables. She sees it just as a tool like a table. She doesn't spout nonsense like "I use a computer at work therefore I try to avoid it outside of work". Well following that logic I talk to people at work. I eat at work. I use pens, pencils, paper, chairs, tables, and desks at work. Should I avoid all of those at home? Of course not! And similarly I should not avoid a computer. Rather I make music (which happens to use a computer). I edit videos or photos (which happens to use a computer). I draw/sketch/build 3d models (which happens to use a computer). I play games (which happens to use a computer). So, a woman who has a similar attitude about that would be great. In 2020 the majority of women I meet don't even own a computer. They just have a smart phone. To me that's a warning sign we aren't on the same side of the spectrum.
Further, apparently the #1 criteria for success in a relationship is similar world view. Well my world view is hard atheist hard science so if the woman believes in aroma therapy or astrology or homeopathy or acupuncture or The Secret or ghosts etc then we don't have a similar world view.
With just those 2 criteria, at least in my social circle and on 7 dating sites it appears I've selected out 97% of all women. I know they exist. I meet them from time to time. They are either 20-25 yrs too young (I'm old) or they are not available.
To keep on ranting, on the dating sites, so many women come across as stupid! (maybe men do to but I only see women's profiles). What do I mean? Well I live in Japan. 33% of profiles have no picture. If you didn't post a picture of yourself you're stupid for being on dating site. 70% don't write anything whatsoever in their profile. If that's you then you believe only looks matter. We know looks are enough therefore you're stupid. Further, of those women that do write something, 95% write something generic like "I like travel, and dining out, seeing movies, dancing". There are about a bunch of generic categories. They include "travel", "dining", "dancing", "yoga", "working out", "hiking", "museums". 95% of all women put some selection of those and nothing else in their profile. Putting nothing in your profile that distinguishes you from the others means you're not actually looking for a match since you didn't list anything anyone could use to distinguish you from random roll of the dice. Therefore you're stupid. See above. I'm not into stupid women.
And even if they pass all of that you still need whatever that magic chemistry is. I met an apparently smart woman a few months ago. She has a degree in bio tech or so she claimed and works for a bio tech company. We went out 4 times. She's one of those women that only has a smart phone outside of work so a worry that she's not really on the same spectrum of people but after 4 dates, while it was fun to hang out and she was attractive there was no "attraction" on my part. Nothing in the 4 dates made me feel kind of desire to see her again. I just let it go.