I’ve seen you post this venting on articles on weight loss before and time for me to come out with a hard disagree. Allow me to serve up some reality and personal confession - despite my username, I’m a pretty thing person; I actually have a fully admitted thing for chubby girls. I’ve dated dozens of them (and married two) and thin girls as well. Just like the extra softness, so sure me.
More than one lives the lifestyle you describe, but both you and them made body weight out to be some sort of magical, hit-or-miss equation other than calories in and calories out. Have you discovered a perpetual motion machine where energy balance doesn’t exist? No, the problem is always (ALWAYS) completely denied components of the calculation. For example: one of the “fit” chubby girls I was with, we had a shared enjoyable “cheat” meal every couple of weeks, pizza. Not that unhealthy, and we can all read calorie numbers. By god, she would grab two of these creamy garlic dips though. A number of times, I ever so gently tried pointing out - for lords sake, you can have FOUR MORE SLICES for the equivalent calories in one of those dips. Well, at even the coming suggestion the wrath of god would come down, in the same tone as your post, for even having such a thought. I didn’t care, I was honestly trying to help.
Weight and fat stores is calories in a calories out. What literally else can it be? I know without a doubt now anyone who “can’t” lose weight knows what the energy imbalance part of their equation is, they just don’t want to give it up. Hers was pizza dips, what is yours???