I think there's a big difference between calculators and AI. Calculators made doing arithmetic much easier. But arithmetic is just rote; there's no creativity involved. If you are asked for the product of 59 * 74, you're going to get 4366 if you do it correctly, whether you do it in your head, on paper, or with a calculator. And if you do without a calculator, you're still going to follow a rote algorithm.
Software development is different. Writing a piece of software requires creativity, IMO, for all but the most trivial of programs. Give three different expert programmers the same spec and you'll almost certainly get three quite different but correct programs. Outsourcing creativity is very different from outsourcing rote, deterministic algorithmic processing. Creativity is regarded as what makes us human (or it used to be, anyway) and I for one don't want to outsource that. That's why I don't use AI for anything, and why I'm happy I retired from paid software development three years ago.
I maintain a few hobby projects, one quite actively, and I do not allow AI anywhere near them. I get to express my creativity and not care about managers demanding I use AI.