Re:Call me crazy... (Score 1)

I'm in alignment with your second paragraph Knara. I think it's a good point. Having a victim's mentality creates this aura of attraction towards victimizing experiences. In short, you get up in the morning LOOKING for new ways to be offended by reading it between the lines of dialogue from those who weren't intending on offending you.

The LGBT community talks frequently about one's attitude being a large part if not the majority of the effort required for passing as a new gender, avoiding discrimination if it's just an orientation characteristic seeking breathing space, etc.

Still, orientation is a large part of one's daily experience and it would be a form of oppression to not unite body, mind and spirit with spoken honesty. And back to what you said which applies here again, is that if one is already OK with who they are, solid in the fact that they are themselves, then there's no need to defend it, because nothing can be said or done to take it away. It just is what it is, and is mundane regularity within.

But, acting out would be understandable considering the discrimination that happens in society today. Somebody has to make some noise and keep the pressure for change up, or it will change much to slowly. Maybe mother Theresa had some wisdom to share when she said something about not wanting to go to an anti-war rally, but would go to pro-peace ones. I think she understood "what you resist, persists" very clearly.

Discrimination of a minority as a form of behavioral control of a majority isn't a good solution. (ie: banning an account because too many homophobes complained) We don't know if this is true, but if it is, it needs improvement. No account should be banned for having something identity based in their profile unless that identity is devised not for the intent of personal prosperity through honesty, but to intentionally hurt others. I guess we'd have to get into that XBox Live user's head to know more about if she generally feels like a victim, isn't secure in her person enough to not need it externally validated, or does she proclaim who she is as an act of passionate defense against a world that isn't so welcoming.

Truth is truth and shouldn't be labeled as offensive. How one uses the truth, can be. Any defense is an aggression/opposition to who/what you're defending yourself against. Look at how hurt a spouse feels when the other starts a divorce, even if it was for his/her life's improvement? To one it's a liberation. To the other, it feels like an attack.

I've experienced LGBT discrimination and divorce, and can confirm that when I'm not feeling insecure and don't need/go seeking any external validation, the world suddenly leaves me alone. But when I'm feeling victimized, I see daggers everywhere.

Heh, it's like being heavily focused on the rum flavour. If we're like that, we'll be more prone to say, "hey, is that rum I taste? There's rum in there isn't there? Yeah, I'm pretty sure that's rum. Wow, rum. Rum rum rum."