More importantly indeed.
It's good that you are putting aside the debate and focusing on your own situation.
Homeschooling is a huge time commitment. It's a defining lifestyle choice. It can work well or not. I know because I've seen and done both.
If you are correct, and I'll come back to that in a minute... if you are correct about your wife not wanting to let go, that in my experience does not work out well for the kids. In my experience it leads to a lack of independence in the kids. I've seen kids who were so carefully managed that the only control they had over their own lives was when they were misbehaving. It escalated as they got older.
On the other hand I've also seen kids who enjoyed their homeschool/co-op school lifestyle and thrived in it.
We married and planned on homeschooling. But (much longer story short) after awhile we realized that we hated homeschooling. It was clear that we and our children would be better off making the best of our community schools, in spite of their reputation. This has worked out well for us. And yet I know other families who still homeschool and are doing fine.
So first of all, this is a decision for you and your wife to make. It's like deciding what state to live in. Florida isn't objectively better than Arizona in any meaningful way. (We could discuss it on slashdot though.) The outcome will be what you make of it.
Which brings me to the real point. You did really well in school. You thrived. Your success today is largely based on your education.
Your wife is bringing a very different perspective to the decision.
I advise you to put aside your preconceived notions about why your wife thinks this way.
You and your wife must be an extraordinary people. Otherwise, why would people who chose such different life paths have managed to meet and get married? Yet, a puzzle, you aren't on the same page on schooling your children. Investigate.
I also advise you to look at what attracts you to your wife, and look at this disagreement you have about homeschooling, and see them as related. Look at this as some kind of anomaly to study. Get to know your wife better. Come from the perspective that she is awesome so this must be awesome too, if I only knew.