Use current strengths to build new ones (Score 2, Insightful)

I have a son in this situation. In addition to exposing him to social situations through scouts and basketball (he's 9), I engage his analytical skills, which he bases a good part of his self-worth on. I ask him to analyze the situation so that he can understand the rules, play by them and "win" by using them. He WANTS to be smart, so make understanding social considerations part of being smart, and the rest follows. Good luck!