cooleyb1's Journal: relief

luckily, the fears drawn up about the conversation that I needed to encounter in was all for not, it actually went much better than planned and this I am quite happy about. Even though the issue is still left unresolved in a sense I feel that there is some sort of solution. What I had found was that sometimes things are better left unresolved. That bringing a subject up to satisfy your own curiosity and resolve your own concerns can hurt others and that internalizing your pain sometimes is the right thing to do even though people always say that you need to express your feelings. So, in effect, I find that contrary to popular belief, even expressing things properly, can quite often be the wrong thing to do. Regardless, Im glad that the conversation is over and that I do not have to open it up again. The best case scenario is to let sleeping dogs lie and deal with only my own emotions about the situation, not wonder whether it is true or false.

Good insight into feelings

[johndiii]

They have more to do with you than with others. I'm in the process of a divorce, and I've been having a whole range of feelings. I've found that it generally tends to be better to hold on to feelings for a little while, and not feel the need to express them or let them drive my behavior. I can resolve most of the feelings internally, without forcing others to deal with what I feel.

This also ties in with your previous JE about communication. It's generally easy to communicate information. It's gene

Re:Good insight into feelings

[cooleyb1]

thank you for your comments. Most of the time I have no problem dealing with my emotion and tend to be very level, but as of this most recent issue it has become quite difficult to deal. Thank you for the welcome as well, I have never been signed up on a site quite like this and have enjoyed the experience very much thus far. I look forward to future communication. Thanks again.

hi

[subgeek]

blinder linked you, and i'm greeting you here rather than his journal.

not knowing at all what your situation is, i'd like to say one thing anyway. internalizing feelings is not the same as not telling the person that causes you those feelings. i would say that in most cases finding a way to channel feelings or let them dissipate is better than internalizing them. but you're right that it's a good idea to consider others.

there you go. you don't know me and i'm already telling you stuff like this. hope

Re:hi

[cooleyb1]

i probably wasnt entirely clear about what the reference to internalize was in this context and for that i apologize. What it applies to is that the situation I have encountered could have a domino effect on almost all people close to me. In this case, working it out by talking to anyone is likely to be inflammitory, and since this is an unfamiliar situation to anyone else that I am close to, they unfortunately cannot be of much help and would only worry about my emotional well being. Basically stating th

Re:hi

[subgeek]

sometimes i can't stop myself from opening my mouth, even if i don't know what i'm talking about. :)

well i don't know you, but it sounds like whatever happens or is happening, you're going to be ok. of course, if blinder thinks you're alright, i should have known that already.