I'm a woman in tech. Work in infosec, and have a strong network background.

The things you own ultimately end up owning you.

Entertaining and painful. Aquaman knows I wouldn't have put up with half of what that redditor did regardless of my personal/financial circumstances.

IE, my spelling on cubemate*

From an X-chromosome perspective, it's more funny to read the war between the chauvinists and the white knights. On a serious note, I'll add my two cents: Don't treat me like I'm your secretary, don't put me on a pedestal. Treat me like a normal cubmate, give me projects appropriate for my level of competency, and if I screw something up call me on it. Really, it's that simple.

I missed the NPR broadcast today, nor have I seen Gloria Allred's accounts; but I saw Sheryl Sandberg as a keynote at the Grace Hopper conference in 2011, and she actually did a solid speech on a very similar topic. IIRC, she discussed the challenges and compromises that women make in technology or other male-dominated field; but she also discussed how that landscape can change, and how women can achieve success both with their family and in a career, similar to your summation of Ms Allred's points. I'm not sure if Allred was trying to make family/career balance come across as utopian, but I'd take what I heard during Sandberg's keynote more to heart because it is, in fact, not an easy balance to achieve... It goes so far beyond needing an unbiased employer; you also need your sig o's unwavering support, and be able to handle the possibility of living a less traditional (non-hallmark) kind of life. Forget social stigmas within the workplace when there is a giant elephant in the room regarding the roles/duties between husband and wife/mother and father.

You must be single too, because if a woman ever caught you looking at your WATCH while love-making/cuddling, you probably would have been a chalk outline at a crime scene by now.

I like you, sir. Thanks for the laugh this morning. You're 100% right, and half of those comments would have read "RTFA" :)

Recursive lying... I like it.

/.ers would have debunked it in 15 minutes. Just sayin'.

.. but Brawndo's got electrolytes!

FTFY

A world of fixed speed bikes and chai lattes, bro.

I definitely agree; there is some sacrifice involving kids, and we are most certainly an exception to the norm: we both come from small families who live nearby, with both of our parents giving us the "procreate us some grandkids" speech, and even more luckily both set of parents are in good health.

I think a lot of it has to do with perspective; I grew up in a single-parent household, and my dad struggled to make ends meet.. he couldn't be around all the time, and despite extended family having to help raise myself and my brother, I don't think we ever questioned his devotion to our upbringing even if it meant being a latch-key kid for several years.

With that childhood behind me, I would want my kids to grow up more comfortably than I did *not spoiled - there's a fine line for sure*, and I would hope that either though extended family/a professional nanny, staggered working hours, or the like we'd be able to successfully rear children who were intelligent, of sound mind, and better yet - have ample opportunities that I missed as a lower-class kid.

Not to mention, I've seen several couples who do the "stay at home" thing and their kids become spoiled brats, or mini-antichrists well from the single digits into teens - (Not quite old enough to see how they fare as adults, but I can place bets it doesn't end well.) I think a lot of being a good parent has less to do with parental working hours, and more to do with the level of dedication, care, and love that ensures a positive childhood (sounds completely cheesy, but I'm a firm believer) :)