bellus quies's Journal: A Condo and a clue

Tons of stuff this month. I'm about to become a homeowner. Well, the owner of some airspace between walls. But I'm super excited. It's in the perfect location that I was looking into, one where I can walk to the cool places, has a great view, and good potential for increased valuation. I should have the keys in hand Friday :)

And my friends brought up in conversation the other day how they thought my ex-bf was gay, and that they didn't even realize we were a couple until the 3-4 time we met. They even asked their gay friend if he was, so they wouldn't make the wrong assumption, and he said that yes he was but doesn't even know it yet.

That possibility hadn't even crossed my mind until they mentioned it, and it makes so much sense. It fits with all the problems we had with the physical portion of the relationship, as well as psychologically with me. How people tend to get into relationships that mirror their parents, well I'm sure my mom is gay and talked to my dad about it and he agrees, and sees the parallel.

Other stuff going on, is that I'm joining up with a ska band to play trombone (and maybe they'll let me sing too). I get together with them for practice tonight.

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[johndiii]

It sounds like you're doing much better. That's excellent. And the condo sounds great. It's always good to be able to walk home from the cool places, provided you are actually able to walk at the time. :-D

The idea that your ex-bf might be gay would explain some of the things that you've written about in the past. Of course, there was also the propensity for certain people in his life (not you) to engage in wildly inappropriate behavior. :-) In any case, the positive direction of your life indicates mor

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[Shadow Wrought]

Agreed! Glad things are going better for you and I can tell just from how you write that you're carrying a lot less emotional weight around with you. Hope the move goes well and you enjoy the band.

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[bellus quies]

Not just the people in his life... but combine that with an extremely frustrating sex life and you can see why I was figuratively banging my head against the wall.

A quote I came across seems to sum things up nicely...

Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option