Its not just IT (Score 1)

I have been a working developer for 8 years - 5 years ago and meet my ex-wife and 4 years ago we go married. 1 year ago, we got divorced. I will admit that the long hours that I would work didn't help. A few months before our seperation, I had just finished a project that had me working 80 hours a week for 3 months straight!! That really put a strain on things. But in the end I can't blame my job or the career. Point blank - I didn't respect her. She hadn't graduated high school, and I couldn't convince her to go to college, not too mention she didn't help out around the house. However, all my peers are educated, have good paying salary jobs, or at least do something productive. When I would see the hot girl in marketing, or even the normal decent looking girl programming on my team, I would be jealous and wish my wife could be like them. In the end, that destroyed my marriage. However, it was for the better ;) As for our son (who is now 4), he is taking it ok. It is happening early enough in life that he doesn't really know any better. At first he was confused and when he was with either of us, he missed the other. But ultimately, my wife and I being apart is better for him because he doesn't see me being a jerk to her, nor does he see us arguing. I want him to grow up respecting women, and be seeing me not respecting my wife would have taught him wrong. Aa