Shitty(?) RAV4 driver here. The RAV4 has some enshittification, primarily in the raft of "Connect" services Toyota seems to think people will buy. (I haven't subscribed to any of them.) But I think you paint with too broad a brush. Where I live, practically every other vehicle is either a Subaru or a Toyota, with many of the Toyotas being RAV4s. So statistically speaking, if shitty drivers are evenly distributed between makes/models, you'll see more "shitty RAV4 drivers" than many other makes/models.
As for the physical controls, the RAV4 doesn't do too badly. All of the HVAC controls are physical, and many other functions can be controlled through steering wheel buttons or voice commands, at least on a mid-grade model.
With respect to the "radio", I have rarely tried to tune in a radio station through the screen controls while driving. 1) I carry a large music collection with me on my mobile phone, and I generally listen to that while I'm driving. The interface between the phone and the car remembers where I am playing my music such that when I get in and turn the car on, my music starts playing where it left off the last time I was driving. If I want to change it, I use the voice command interface on my phone to select something else from my collection. 2) the RAV4 itself has a "voice command" capability (at least in the mid-grade model that I have), and much of the car can be operated by saying "Hey, Toyota" and then a command. When I want to listen to a particular radio station, I say "Hey, Toyota - tune to [frequency] [band]" (e.g., "Hey, Toyota - tune to 92.9 FM").
When I'm driving, eyes on the road and hands on the wheel is a priority. The shift from physical controls on the radio itself to steering wheel controls and then voice activation has been an interesting evolution, but I'm adaptable. And, at least in the Toyota, the volume control remains a physical knob, on the left-hand side of the "media center". Others may vary in their approach.