No I don't categorise it as flaming and I do agree to an extent with what you say. I'd rather that having not ever met me you would refrain from telling me which traits I do and do not possess.
You can dress things up any way you wish but what SHOULD and DOES happen are seperate things, I'm not saying I would have claimed for a set of Chanel scatter cushions here, I'm just trying to be realist rather than idealist (as you seem to be).
You are entirely right with what you say, but it simply does not and will not change the fact that this is reality, deal with it.