For some reason, society has developed a notion of "proper" behavior which deviates substantially from how people actually behave.
Yes. For me this is called 'civilized'. When someone cuts me off in traffic, my instinct tells me to hit him or her. Nasty, but it is my ancient primate genes talking. I may or may not think about hitting, depending on my mood. That is the more human part of my brain. Do I actually hit someone for cutting me off in traffic? No. There is a big difference in what I 'feel', 'think' and what I do.
I know you mentioned 'behaviour/behaviour' and not 'though/behaviour', but the first is analog to the latter. For instance, I do not communicate about what I do sexually. I do not do anything illegal, or even weird, but that is just something between me and my girl. Putting our intimate details in the public domain is not civilized behaviour for me. Likewise for a night out: I do not go on a vandalizing spree or whatever, but posting pictures about my night out? No, that is private.
This line of reasoning pretty much continues all the way up to (but not included) posts like this one: I consider this to be a civilized exchange of ideas, so that is why I write these lines.
As the saying goes, good judgement comes from experience. And experience comes from bad judgement. If "everyone" has their incidents of bad judgement made public for all to see, maybe we'll all start to be more honest with ourselves, admit that we all screw up from time to time, and be more forgiving of other people's innocent mistakes. Then maybe we can actually get some honest politicians elected to run the country.
I am Dutch, so I might have less to complain about in politics... I do want my children to learn from their bad judgement, and I know that they will make mistakes, but I see no use in having their mistakes out there forever. It is not civilized and serves them no purpose. It is probably best said by jareth-0205 in 52078783
Privacy is what prevents flawed judgemental people from harming us.
I grew up in a world where the internet did not really exist for most people. My first direct contact with it was in 1989. This means I have had the opportunity (although at the time I was not fully aware of that) to influence what pieces of information about me were put online.
When I became a father it seemed only logical to extend this same opportunity to our offspring. And my girlfriend feels the same on this issue, so it is very difficult to find anything on our children online.
My hope is that they will see the value in this and abstain from putting things online that might work against them in their future life. Puberty for them is still some odd years in the future, so I hope there is time enough to get this into their firmware.
Optimism is the content of small men in high places. -- F. Scott Fitzgerald, "The Crack Up"