So, Pugs turned into a disaster after the lead programmer "decided to change his gender". That's quite a lovely way to describe somebody's personal struggle, or an insightful way to describe what happened to Pugs (several parts are used in Perl 6, so not a disaster). She (not a he, but a she) is still followed by many of us, and when anybody in the Perl community talks of her, it is with fondness and respect.
Next to that, you must really really hate the fact that at least three other transgenders have worked on Perl 6 since the lead programmer you mentioned went away because of personal reasons. It was really a disaster. The other people felt really uncomfortable with us three. Oh, wait, they didn't, hugs everywhere, friendliness galore. That's the nice thing about the Perl community: friendliness, helpful, useful, and above all, mostly not bigoted, mostly no transphobia, mostly no homophobia, and mostly no nasty people that use mean language to demean other people.
I am also happy that you despise our lovely butterfly Camelia. It was especially designed by Larry Wall himself to appeal to 7 year old girls. But also to see who says nasty things about a programming language that has the courage to have such a logo, because such a person probably will not feel at home in our community.
Well, the Perl community, and in this case certainly the community of Perl 6 developers, is a community with friendly people. We love Camelia. I feel loved as a person, and it does not seem to matter that I am transgender. Maybe you have to find a place of your own where people appreciate who and what you are. Maybe at some point you will learn to say nicer things.