Why? (Score 2, Insightful)

My roommate in college had dated, and remained good friends with a girl who decided to kill herself. She was still in high school at the time and simply dosed and large number of pills and laid out on a blanket in plain site on the lawn of our local jc. It was, needless to say, traumatic for many of the people involved. It was only compounded though when the time delayed emails from her aol account arrived in several people's inboxes. They were meant as an attempt to soothe the grieving, but the effect was not that. They mostly said things along the line of "it's not your fault, please don't feel bad, I'm happier now" etc. etc. And maybe in the long run it was a good idea, but I am certain the effect of her emails in the short term was different than she expected. Rather than bringing relief it rubbed salt in a wound that was only three days old. Apparently she couldn't delay email more than a week on AOL? maybe they would have been better a month or two later. The whole notion of someone facilitating this effort is a little unnerving though. I know the last thing I want is an email from a dead friend after they're gone.