Technology Induced Divorce? Nope,... (Score 1)

Like most other things that are worthwhile, Marriage is a choice that is made daily by the two people who are in it. It should be a lifelong commitment although things can go awry. A little thinking ahead can save a lot of time and anguish later. For example: Talking through the fact that an IT job is demanding on the husband or wife's time before being married is time well spent. Map out who will take what responsibilities at home when he/she is not out in the field can help minimize stress. There is no magic to pre-marital counseling but the greatest value of it can be that individuals decide beforehand whether they can deal with a spouse who is not home on a regular basis or called out at random times. Sitting down and discussing issues like this can help a Marriage last longer or be stronger. Divorces can be caused by lack of communication about hot topics such as household/childcare responsibilities, money or sex. Currently, we have many men and women of the Armed Forces overseas and their Marriages last so just being out of the house over an IT job, in and of itself doesn't cause divorces. The difference is our military families have communicated before deployment what the expectations will be on each person's part, then COMPROMISED with each other for the common good of the family. Finally, anything you put before God and your family can wreck your household. It may take time but if your wife and kids see that your job is more important to you than they are (IT, Brain Surgery, Ice Cream Vending or any other career), you're on thin ice. Focus on the priorities of the entire family unit. They may change with time, wife, then kids, then you, not in any scripted order. Treat your kids good and they'll grow to love and respect you. Treat your spouse good and they'll send you to work with a big smile on your face. Give your Marriage everything you've got and it will pay great dividends for years to come. Of course you'll miss out on having at least one ex to blame all your troubles from here to eternity on but somehow, you'll survive (see Gloria Gaynor). : )