That's been the battle cry for all AI research for several years now. "If we don't do all the things, someone else will."
Anybody remember the old saying, "Just because somebody else might jump off a cliff doesn't mean you need to too?" I remember hearing that from my parents quite a lot as a kid when I wanted to do something some friend was claiming to be doing. It's neat how we went from a world that thought that way to a world that thinks, "If profit potential is involved, try to beat them to jumping off that cliff."
Yes, of course we can reject all that and keep living our pastoral existence in harmony with nature and peace with our neighbors.
After all, that's worked so well for lower-technology civilizations in the past.
If you don't have steel and guns, there's only one result when you interact with other civilizations which do. Well, ok, I guess enslavement and extermination count as two results.
Ask Ukraine now whether they think it was a good idea to give up their nukes.
Iran learned the rules for 21st century drone warfare. And now, they're holding the US, who didn't, to a standstill.
China has learned all these lessons, after learning the first one the hard way.
Someone will use AI to pilot drones without humans in the loop. It's inevitable. The only defense against that is to do the same with counter-drones. Humans are just too slow.
Someone will use AI to engineer a virus, whether it's used against humans, livestock, or crops. If we don't have AI to engineer a vaccine, again, we'll be too slow.
People are already using AI to find and exploit coding vulnerabilities faster than humans can find and fix them. If there's a defense against that other than using AI, I'm all ears.
Materials science, encryption algorithms, medicine, weather prediction (just ask Napoleon and Eisenhower), hacking, etc. If AI can provide a competitive advantage, it will be used.
I hate this timeline. But to misquote WarGames: The only winning move is to play.