The trick to leading is to use people well.
If you can use people well, they will love you for it. If you can make people believe that you will use them better than they will use themselves, they will give themselves to you.
To use people well, you must understand and know them. If you cannot know them, you cannot use them in a subtle fashion.
To use people well, you must love them. If you cannot love them, you will use them frivolously, rudely and in a fashion that does not respect them.
You must understand them, tax them without asking more than they can give, make them feel that their efforts further their own personal goals and will benefit other people at the same time.
If you ask more of a person than they can give, they will fail, and what they could have achieved will be wasted. They will develop habits and practices that lead to failure, and they will be shamed. If they do not escape you, they will be ruined by what you have done to them.
You must never ask people to do what they cannot do.
If you ask less of a person than they can give, their potential will be wasted. They will not grow, but will instead be stunted and destroyed. If they do not escape you, they will be ruined by what you have done to them.
You must always find a way to exploit what a person has to offer.
Lead in this way and you will be beloved, and all mankind will lift you on their shoulders.