I could not agree with you more. It seems you and I share almost the same life. College graduate, job in the software industry, independent and foreign film viewer (in the theather when they are offered), exotic food lover. Heck, I even go to the gym more days a week than not. Tonight I spent five hours playing one game, and if things go well, I will do the same tomorrow night. But I still get out, not because of any sense of obligation, but becasue it is sometimes enjoyable. In all fairness, though, there are many things I would set to the side so that I can play more games. It does not, however, affect my job, health, or relationships. You cannot define addiction simply by the number of hours spent in an activity.