And every time I hear one of these anecdotal stories of women being viciously attacked, I think to myself "Whoa. I've never seen anything like that."
And inevitably, it ends with "this bad shit happens because you're remaining silent while it happens."
And I think "Huh. Well there's not much I can do to stop what I've never seen happen."
The thing is, I have no idea how much of a problem this is really. Are people overreacting? Are people really behaving like that? Are there even very many of them? Does it happen to women more than men? Much more? Does it happen more in tech circles than, say, artist circles?
I don't have time to dig up all of that myself, and it's not affecting me negatively in any way. It's not my fight, so there's no point in my "doing something about it", unless a problem were to suddenly stare me in the face (witnessing harassment, for example). I suspect that most people fall into this category.
So by publicly berating everyone in a group for their "lack of action" to curb this scourge, you're simply alienating everyone except for those who want to put on a public show of their righteousness.