Comment Dating on the Internet (Score 1) 331
Actually, I don't think people meeting over the Internet is much if any more risky than meeting and dating people in real life. How do I know? Because nearly four years ago I met someone on the Internet and in June we'll have been married for two years.
It's all about making your own choices. The Internet gives people of all race, gender, age, sexuality, and physical status the ability to converse with one another over the web without the hinderances of todays society. What do I mean by that? Dating Stress. Society today puts so much emphasis on fitting in, being perfect, being sexy, and doing everything right, that it's a wonder two people find eachother at all!
Think about your first date. Remember brushing your hair for an hour making sure it looked just right? Remember pacing back and forth until your date arrived? Remember not knowing what to say or talk about? Remember being so worried about that first kiss that you missed an entire hour of conversation? Remember the first time you broke up with that person?
Well just think, what if you'd talked to that person for a time period, say, a month before you ever met him/her? What if you could get to know everything about that person you'd want to know without having to worry about how sexy you are, or what you're wearing, or if she can see that big zit behind your ear. What if you could get to know a person without having to worry about society's pressures? Dream world isn't it?
Unfortunately, a high percentage of these people who are trying to do just that don't have the capacity to balance dream from reality. They've been talking to "MrRomance" for a week now, and have been told everything they ever wanted to hear. Of course, "MrRomance" is a 12 year old boy who's read too many of his sisters "Sweet Dreams" books. Chances are, if she'd just talked with this individual for an extended period of time, (say weeks or months) she'd have noticed he was never on before 3 (school) and had to go to bed by 8. I'm not saying everyone is simply naive who get themselves into trouble on the internet, but I do think if 99% of these people would use their brains along with their hearts, we wouldn't have so much to talk about.
I just wanted to post to prove that there are sane people who aren't sex addicted using the internet. I first started using it when I had my jaws wired shut for a month and a half. I couldn't talk to anyone in real life, so I resorted to IRC. The internet saved my sanity, while allowing me to meet my future husband. It can't be all that bad.
A few tips:
*If you're seriously trying to make things work on the Internet.. be honest.. Hopefully the people you'll talk to will end up being as honest as you.
*If you're interested in someone, keep talking to them for an extended time. Don't arrange phone calls, or meeting them for real until you're completely comfortable.
*Don't initiate "netsex". If you're seriously interested in this person, keep it clean. If he/she's a pervert, he/she'll lose interest.
I have a lot of thoughts on Internet Relations. If you'd like to talk to me more, feel free to email me. You can also find me on the undernet (IRC) as PCkid as an @ on Linux.
-Kara Pritchard
It's all about making your own choices. The Internet gives people of all race, gender, age, sexuality, and physical status the ability to converse with one another over the web without the hinderances of todays society. What do I mean by that? Dating Stress. Society today puts so much emphasis on fitting in, being perfect, being sexy, and doing everything right, that it's a wonder two people find eachother at all!
Think about your first date. Remember brushing your hair for an hour making sure it looked just right? Remember pacing back and forth until your date arrived? Remember not knowing what to say or talk about? Remember being so worried about that first kiss that you missed an entire hour of conversation? Remember the first time you broke up with that person?
Well just think, what if you'd talked to that person for a time period, say, a month before you ever met him/her? What if you could get to know everything about that person you'd want to know without having to worry about how sexy you are, or what you're wearing, or if she can see that big zit behind your ear. What if you could get to know a person without having to worry about society's pressures? Dream world isn't it?
Unfortunately, a high percentage of these people who are trying to do just that don't have the capacity to balance dream from reality. They've been talking to "MrRomance" for a week now, and have been told everything they ever wanted to hear. Of course, "MrRomance" is a 12 year old boy who's read too many of his sisters "Sweet Dreams" books. Chances are, if she'd just talked with this individual for an extended period of time, (say weeks or months) she'd have noticed he was never on before 3 (school) and had to go to bed by 8. I'm not saying everyone is simply naive who get themselves into trouble on the internet, but I do think if 99% of these people would use their brains along with their hearts, we wouldn't have so much to talk about.
I just wanted to post to prove that there are sane people who aren't sex addicted using the internet. I first started using it when I had my jaws wired shut for a month and a half. I couldn't talk to anyone in real life, so I resorted to IRC. The internet saved my sanity, while allowing me to meet my future husband. It can't be all that bad.
A few tips:
*If you're seriously trying to make things work on the Internet.. be honest.. Hopefully the people you'll talk to will end up being as honest as you.
*If you're interested in someone, keep talking to them for an extended time. Don't arrange phone calls, or meeting them for real until you're completely comfortable.
*Don't initiate "netsex". If you're seriously interested in this person, keep it clean. If he/she's a pervert, he/she'll lose interest.
I have a lot of thoughts on Internet Relations. If you'd like to talk to me more, feel free to email me. You can also find me on the undernet (IRC) as PCkid as an @ on Linux.
-Kara Pritchard
