We are not defined by our genitals, nor can we change our genes to our liking, but our lives are so comfortable and idle that people spend significant amounts of time creating reasons to be upset. If you're male and don't like sports or cars or woodworking, fine. If you're female and don't like baking or fashion or gardening, fine. It doesn't mean there's a "gendered soul" in conflict with your biological genitals. It means we're human, with all the good, bad, and indifferent variation that entails. Everyone is a minority of one, trying to find enough commonality to work together effectively as a society.