No kidding. Woman in tech here. Often, in fact, the only woman on a given IT team. Especially when I was younger, harassment was a problem; in fact, it went on periodically until I was into my 40s, which shocked me. Most guys were totally fine, but there was always the odd creep. In those cases, the only thing that saved me from more trouble was not the simple fact that I was married (I've been with the same man since I was 23). That didn't stop the super-creeps. What saved me from excessive harassment was the fact that my husband is well over 6 feet and extremely muscular and strong, with a shaved head and goatee. He looks like a cross between a Hell's Angel and Anton LaVey. (He's actually a professor.) I kept a photo of him on my desk at all times. Still didn't stop some jerks. The most persistent pests got a visit from him, at which point he quietly said "My wife says you're bothering her. You'll stop now. And you won't cause her problems by lying about some sudden other problem you have either - no taking revenge because she won't sleep with you. You'll behave professionally from now on, or you'll get another visit from me, and next time, I'll be markedly less polite." He never had to visit anyone twice. It's annoying to have to constantly rely on this kind of thing - another man standing up for you - but it works, and I'm glad to have the option.
