Not about programming, but about geeks (Score 1)

I don't think the issue is about being a programmer, but about being a geek. Technically, being a geek means you aren't well equipped for tense social situations. But that's neither here nor there, it's a stereotype.

I personally have three kids - 7 years, 3 years and 5 months. I've been married for 9 years now. I've been a programmer since before any of the kids and marriage. My family life is excellent though, even with my work. However, I telecommute, so I get lots of time with the family.

Before I was telecommuting (the first three years of my oldest sons life), things weren't so great though. Having to balance work, my extra activities (programming for linux kernel, and doing Debian stuff), things got really stressful.

I don't do any LUG type stuff. I spend all my spare time with my family. So all I can say is, try to cut back on the outside activities like LUG meetings, and try to see if your employer will accomodate some telecommute time. Just remember that your family comes first. Programming pays the bills, but it ain't your life.