Comment turn it all around (Score 1) 1228
i was a nerd in school. i took computer classes and stayed up late learning turbo pascal and all about object oriented programming. i got excited about that stuff, but i had my click of friends... they all played D&D, but i did not. we defined for ourselves what cool was. it also helped that we were in a small private school where everyone had good grades and the "cool" crowd could not overshadow us.
but this is not true to lots of kids in school these days. i had trouble even though i had good friends around me.
what i feel would be helpful in these cases of extreme prejudice would be to let it all out. explain to them that you are being alienated and hurt by others. tell them how you feel. only when they know the facts will they be able to help.
and also be careful who and when you share your thoughts. standing up in class may not be the best time, but after class you could share your ideas with the teacher so they do not have to save face in front of the entire class that does not share your point of view. don't force them to be defensive. set them up to be compassionate. tell them you are hurting first,then tell them why
i am sure you will have a better chance at getting the results you want as opposed to saying i sympathize with these kids and understand why they wanted to kill everyone. sure you do, lots of us do, but comments like this force those in authority and among your peers to go on the defensive.
but this is not true to lots of kids in school these days. i had trouble even though i had good friends around me.
what i feel would be helpful in these cases of extreme prejudice would be to let it all out. explain to them that you are being alienated and hurt by others. tell them how you feel. only when they know the facts will they be able to help.
and also be careful who and when you share your thoughts. standing up in class may not be the best time, but after class you could share your ideas with the teacher so they do not have to save face in front of the entire class that does not share your point of view. don't force them to be defensive. set them up to be compassionate. tell them you are hurting first,then tell them why
i am sure you will have a better chance at getting the results you want as opposed to saying i sympathize with these kids and understand why they wanted to kill everyone. sure you do, lots of us do, but comments like this force those in authority and among your peers to go on the defensive.
