Exactly. And if women pointed that out in the workplace, caywen would tell them to "lighten up." On lightening up: http://therealkatie.net/blog/2012/mar/21/lighten-up/

I took a Python class not too long ago. As a woman, I must say it was pretty bad. Many of the male students were filled with presumption about what I could and could not understand. The default assumption was that I needed help. When my code worked, they were 100% surprised. Every time. There was no merit-based reason for this treatment. My work was solid. It was as if the students were mimicking what they thought programmers did. I'm sure these guys would believe themselves to be enlightened beings who were beyond any kind of gender bias, much like many of the comments I see here. You have to look for your default attitudes. I got an A in the class but am pretty reluctant to pursue a career around scripting (although knowing some Python never hurts). It's a quality of life thing. I've also worked doing non-code computer stuff at several web development companies in the past. The dev guys were kind of a mixed bag in terms of attitudes towards women. Some were great, modest, friendly people. About half were tolerable but occasionally made creepy remarks to me. A few were unbelievably arrogant and regarded me (and anyone else who didn't code) as subhuman. The reasons many women are turned off by programming run deeper than merit. It's very much a cultural issue that begins with the way women and men get educated.