Comment Re:Becoming obese (Score 1) 620
Good post, and what I was thinking as I read a lot of the responses. "Toughen up fatass" or embarrassment is really only effective when I give a shit about the person that's talking to me. When some internet tough guy or a random person on the street says it, that's just encouragement to hole myself up in my apartment and order something terrible instead of going out, getting some exercise, and buying some decent food from the store.
I don't blame anyone for my obesity, it's something I'm in complete control of, but it's not at all as difficult for everyone. I grew up in a house with incredibly poor eating habits where I was encouraged to eat as a reward and an emotional crutch. Despite that, when I had the prospect of a girlfriend or close friends interested in getting outdoors, I found it easy to eat healthy and get exercise. Now it's been years immersed in my work and then shuffling back to my apartment at night, and it's a huge uphill battle that's going to involve a complete lifestyle change. I have trouble approaching girls, hitting the gym, getting outdoors with friends because I am too embarrassed, not the contrary.
Anyway I'm not trying to whine, it is entirely my fault, just pointing out that it's a problem that snowballs harder and harder. The perspective of someone that's 200 lbs is not quite the same as the 250 and 300+ lb people that we like to have a laugh at, and just telling us to get over it because it's easy is useless. For my part I've been comfortable giving talks to audiences with hundreds of people since I was a kid, but I quickly learned that telling shy people just to tough up and get over it, or even mock them for their timidity, is a great way to ensure they never actually try.
I don't blame anyone for my obesity, it's something I'm in complete control of, but it's not at all as difficult for everyone. I grew up in a house with incredibly poor eating habits where I was encouraged to eat as a reward and an emotional crutch. Despite that, when I had the prospect of a girlfriend or close friends interested in getting outdoors, I found it easy to eat healthy and get exercise. Now it's been years immersed in my work and then shuffling back to my apartment at night, and it's a huge uphill battle that's going to involve a complete lifestyle change. I have trouble approaching girls, hitting the gym, getting outdoors with friends because I am too embarrassed, not the contrary.
Anyway I'm not trying to whine, it is entirely my fault, just pointing out that it's a problem that snowballs harder and harder. The perspective of someone that's 200 lbs is not quite the same as the 250 and 300+ lb people that we like to have a laugh at, and just telling us to get over it because it's easy is useless. For my part I've been comfortable giving talks to audiences with hundreds of people since I was a kid, but I quickly learned that telling shy people just to tough up and get over it, or even mock them for their timidity, is a great way to ensure they never actually try.