Distrust of authority should be part of a healthy skepticism. To a point I'd even call it a virtue. But when you use that as a justification to vilify or denigrate those who choose to serve in a more authoritarian system and claim you can't be friends with them, I think that points more to your character than theirs.
A mid-rank officer, such as an army captain, knows how to lead, follow, and get out of the way, while respecting both those he serves, and those who serve under him. While he is expected to follow orders, when lawful, he is also expected to use his brain and values (including his own healthy skepticism) to determine the best solution to a problem, and how to employ his people to execute the plan. And if unlawful orders are received, he is duty-bound to disobey. (Note: the word "obey" is not in the oath of office).
You may not understand such a structure or those who volunteer for it, but nothing beats the experience of working with a committed team of folks who trust each other with their lives.
To say it's only about money is to be truly ignorant of what it means to serve something bigger than yourself.