"While "nice guys finish last" is often extrapolated (dubiously) to areas like dating"
There's another adage that outdates this one: "all's fair in love and war" and, in Cervantes' words "Love and war are all one . . . It is lawful to use sleights and stratagems to . . . attain the wished end."
"Some bosses - like Steve Jobs, Larry Ellison, or pre-mellowing Bill Gates were legendary assholes and still got great results out of their employees. There are other people who manage their employees with a gentler hand and play to their strengths, and get good results too."
You see how you had no problem to name some sucessful assholes but still didn't provide any name in the "sucessful but very nice" side?
"just remember that - to fight adage with adage - "you catch more flies with honey than with vinegar.""
Right. But then, be it either using honey or vinegar, catching all those flies doesn't look like being so nice, once you kill them, don't you think so?