I see where the confusion is...and why your descriptions for each seem so similar. What you experienced though i think had little to do with the idea of social ownership and cooperative engagement. That is what i hear when i hear socialism...cooperative, not collective. While i don't deny your charges against the USA being fascist...by any means...it seems that you are using experience of a socialist state as your definition of socialism...when in fact most 'socialist states' in practice have little to do with the idea of social ownership with the peoples involvement in the market and economy...rather state ownership and nationalized propaganda...which is as you state...pretty fascist.
I hope you can see now, where i chuckle every time someone throws those two ideas out as the same thing since it seems that they are opposites to me, and are very different in practice