mercedo's Journal: Love Without Sex ?or Sex Without Love?

Which do you prefer, love without sex or sex without love? Of course I prefere love without sex.

It would be arguable whether the mind of humans can buy by money, though, everybody knows physical love or play? can buy by money.

There are countable massage parlours on the streets of our residential area, although numerous ones are located at the red-light district here we call NAKASU - probably world famous not only Japan but Asia, we have such spots here and there near our residences.

Those massage parlours are not sex shop, or brothel, whore house, but of course in function we must say these premises are very similar to those of sex shops. And to make matters more convenient, we just pay less, much less than the case in a sex shop. Usually $50 -$70 bucks -very cheap, in sex shop we usually spend $200.

So I tried comparing to the today's date in her room. Traffic fees - $9 x 2 = $18, Beers $4, Taco Balls $3, Pizza $10, Dried Curry $10, plus usually I took 1.5 hours to reach her room since she lives in a different town. I must say in financially speaking both cases don't make a lot differences.

Just one time I had visited such parlour proposed by one of my colleagues in school -that means both we were teacher. A girl who appeared was young, pretty, but having mean breasts gave me a relaxation and of course I was satisfied. But after that I had felt very bad for sometime because of what I did -such a nasty thing. Love without sex is just fine, endurable, but sex without love is just horrible, abhorrent, should be evaded. Sex shops and massage parlours are usually giving us physical satisfaction without love. Since then I have decided I never visit such places again.

I always take pains to see her everytime but still I feel content. Because it is worth while for us to confirm our love.

In my deep and honest opinion

[Allen Zadr]

Some of the texts you've copied us on...

It seems the choice of words, "Japanese Salary Man Schedule" (maybe your translation, maybe not) is not kind. Just for some outside perspective, "Japanese Salary Man Schedule" is not particularly a "Japanese" or even a "Salary Man" thing. It is a thing that is equally true of ditch diggers, and hollywood stars. If you have to go to work in the morning, you need sleep the night before. If you have long hours, you will be tired, and need rest.

If you are human, you

Re:In my deep and honest opinion

[mercedo]

As to her part, I copied what she wrote as they are exactly in emails. Now I confirmed again. I also noticed the order of words "Japanese Salary Man Schedule" is ambiguous and not usual in standard English, so I guess she was deliberately imitating the particular mistake Japanese people often make then making a mockery of me. Don't you think so?

Three Ways

[Allen Zadr]

1. Playful Mocking
2. Mean spirited mocking
3. Manipulative mocking

The first two, you have a personality (maybe a difficult one), the third is simply using you. The third, is what my first wife (now Ex-wife) would do.

I won't presume to know which to attribute to this woman, as my own personal experiences cloud my judgement.

(rest of answer... see next comment...)

Besides

[mercedo]

What you were refering to is what she wrote to me. First of all she is not a native speaker, from Uganda, educated in Canadian college, after graduated from high school in her country. We Japanese tend to just appreciate if someone is from abroad, and it is rare to assess whether their English is correct. Isn't this the case?

Re:Besides

[Allen Zadr]

I leave room for translation issues. However, here are the assumptions that I make.

"Japanese Salary Man" is a stereotype. It is (as shown in American movies), the faceless, spineless, bland Japanese man who will work tirelessly for his employer, regardless of hours, and will always work late when something is still to be done. Someone who has no "life" outside their workplace. As stereotypes go, there are some people who probably fit into this description quite well.

I guess that you are aware of this