I am sure I will be modded down for this reply, but here we go....
Your third sentence makes the statement that pretending [child abuse] does not exist is sad and ineffective, therefore unreasonable enforcment laws and a nanny is acceptable as long as it helps the children.
The BBC article did not link to the 'Children's Charities Coalition on Internet Safety' [sic], but I looked it up and read through the letters posted. From the 'Letter to Lord Carter':
'There is one issue which we see as being something of a hybrid, but among other things it certainly touches on the safety agenda. I refer to the misuse of file-sharing software.'
'Of course we have no interest in promoting or allowing copyright theft but we are just as concerned about the potential for a family to be plunged into a financial crisis when a rights-holder tries to collect their dues, the bill for which having arisen from the unknown/undiscovered activity of a child in the household. Some children will doubtless have fully understood the unlawful nature of their activity from the outset, and will simply have been skilful [sic] at disguising what they are doing from their parents.'
'Then there is the role of this type of software in providing access, as it frequently does, not only to copyright protected material, but also to a spread of other items found on participants' storage devices and hard drives. These other items may range from the plainly illegal e.g. child pornography, through to extreme violence or hard core pornography which falls short of being illegal but which is nonetheless highly age inappropriate, and much else between and besides.'
'In every other context, when we speak about online safety, it is commonly accepted that all participants and players in the digital space have a responsibility to do what they can to make the internet a safer place for everyone, but perhaps particularly for some of the most vulnerable elements in society such as children.'
Reasonable enforcement laws is an oxymoron if I read one.
In the nineteenth century there was a battle to control political opinion through pamphlets. In the twentieth century, it was newspapers, television and radio. And in the the beginning of the twenty-first century there is a battle to control the internet and therefore your mind.
Do not be fooled into thinking that this is for the children.