The impression I'm getting here is that people is siding with Linus without really understanding what the discussion was about, and how it really unfolded. It's like people are painting the girl who started it as a diva who gets offended at cursing.
I read the whole thread though (gasp!), and it was a rather civil, insightful, and even funny discussion, at both sides of the argument. Ironically, I think the girl who started the discussion cursed even more than Linus during the discussion. Reading the thread, I've got the impression that the subject wasn't so much about cursing and being disproportionately mad at times, but just "toning it a bit down", and minding to whom Linus would burst out, and I can she has a point. The problem is, Linus tends to burst out at top-level developers (because of their greater responsibility, making mistakes for them are more damaging), and this tends to scare away inexperienced developers, while also impacting morale and reducing top-developers authority. And it's hard not to agree with that - there's only so much abuse a top-developer can take (Alan Cox anyone?).
I'm not sure I'm really siding with the girl either though, because I can see Linus has some valid reasons for acting like that, I could see *myself* acting the same way in his position, and I'm a generally a laid back guy. That's the kind of discussion that it's not all black and white.