Just imagine showing up to some hipster gathering in a suit and tie and watch yourself be ostracized in the exact same way.
That would be wrong too.
The bottom line, in the TFA and other comments, is that some engineers / hipsters / <insert demographic> are behaving according to different social norms than their employers / middle managers / <insert some other demographic> and thus feel misunderstood and disrespected.
I've been trying to point out how stupid the rift is between these two groups of people, when really it has nothing to do with just getting the job done.
I know as well as anyone else that these problems aren't going to go away for the people concerned overnight. Either of the groups must just put up with it, or change their attitude. I just wish that people like you could see these misunderstandings from both sides, instead of siding with the establishment by default.