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Comment: Male blindness (Score 1) 482

by Xarvh (#48064547) Attached to: Online Creeps Inspire a Dating App That Hides Women's Pictures

Too many people here could benefit from having a look at the amount of shit women on dating sites receive.
First of all, yes, women are socialized not to make the first move and to be fucking defensive, and with due reason.
You have no fucking clue about how many of the women around you have been raped, and you have no fucking clue about how it feels like to be objectified every day.
I had no fucking clue myself and could not believe it until I started asking to women who trusted me enough.

My ex gf showed me her OkCupid inbox. It was daunting, outright dehumanizing.
(BTW yes, she does make the first move every now and then.)

I'm wasting a lot of time on OkCupid trying to write to women who are not interested in me or have to sift through huge piles of shit to even find my message anyway, so being able to contact only those women who are actually interested would be an awesome change for me.

BTW, to all the dudebros complaining about being called misogynists: Christie Mack was beaten savagely by her boyfriend and a shitload of people sided with HIM. At least admit that there is a cultural problem.

Comment: Feminist here (Score 1) 962

by Xarvh (#47512979) Attached to: The Daily Harassment of Women In the Game Industry

I'm a man, I consider myself a feminist, no I don't feel threatened the slightest by feminists and feminism, I have friends of both gender that identify as feminists.
What's the big deal?

Is it so hard to consider that something is true even if it's completely out of your personal experience?
"Men too" is not an answer, because the harassment and threats that women face is disproportionate to what men face.

How old where you when you first feared to be raped? Now go ask your female friends.
A significant portion of women in the western world has endured sexual abuse and probably still bears the scars of that.
That's women that you see in your life, that you meet daily. Only they don't tell you.
Yes, men are also abused. It is a problem, but it's nowhere as common and nowhere as socially acceptable.

You don't know everything. Your perception is not all-encompassing. Your experience is not the same as those of the opposite gender.
Deal with it.

Comment: Re:Religion, maybe, but not /faith/... (Score 1) 1037

by Xarvh (#46681027) Attached to: How the Internet Is Taking Away America's Religion

A bit of a No True Scotsman here (you don't get to decide who really "follows Jesus" and who is misguided), but I have no difficulty to believe you are a good human being.
If you like anecdotal evidence, I am a hard core atheist and I have a wealth of friends with a wide variety of beliefs, which they keep away from me just in case.

Put no trust in cryptic comments.

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