Tell me this isn't how it works.
This isn't how it works. You are grossly simplifying the amazingly complex and nuanced reality that is human existence. This became apparent when you used the word 'bully' in your first sentence. 'Bully' is a concept so abstract it's practically meaningless.
What is 'expressing oneself honestly' to one is 'bullying' to another. Good-natured humor is often perceived as bullying by those who lack a sense of humor or are obsessively politically correct or are intimidated by debate. According to some, just being an extrovert makes one a bully.
It seems to me that the concept of a bully can only be understood in relativistic terms. A person isn't intrinsically a bully the way they're portrayed in crappy 80s movies. They're only a bully when they're perceived as a bully by someone who also perceives himself to be a victim. Interestingly, we don't have a neat name for the person who perceives himself to be a victim. So I just use 'pussy.'
Yeah, people are pretty fucking dumb, and being a dumb lunk is glorified in the U.S. But I find your bullies vs. smart quiet ones assessment to be way off the mark. There are a lot of extroverted assholes who are brilliant and equally as many quiet gentlemen who are stupid as shit.
You criticize those who pursue the things they want, and maybe justifiably so, but they wouldn't be 'bullies' if there weren't pussies who let themselves be pushed around. I have more respect for someone who will assert his will onto the world than one who will be pushed around out of cowardice, ineptitude, or lethargy. If I had to blame America's decline on one of these groups of people it would be the passive ones rather than those who assert their will.